Wellness didn’t come easy for me. It took a cancer diagnosis for me to realize I needed to take better care of my health. I remember exactly where I was when I was told I had cancer.
It was the day after thanksgiving 2017. I had previously done an ultrasound and a biopsy to determine if the lump that was in my right breast was a cyst or some benign tumor. To be honest I wasn’t worried. I refused to believe that someone who was always so active, ate healthy and so young could be diagnosed with cancer. That wasn’t even a thought.
So, you can almost imagine the astonishment and total disbelief when I heard the words cancer, and one of the most aggressive and deadly ones. I sat in the bathroom for almost an hr before I could speak. Matter of fact I think I even chuckled when my doctor told me the news. Going through the next phase of my life and all the life altering processes that came with that diagnosis wasn’t easy. But the life I have now even amidst fighting cannot be compared to the life I had before that was full of stress and anxiety. Change was necessary.
I’m Candace – an energetic mom, wife, nurse practitioner, health coach and cancer fighter.
Everything I’ve done and what was done to me all sums up to this moment. People always tell me, you’re glowing or you’re so strong but it wasn’t always easy and some days are good and others not so good but what I have learnt and still learning to do is to find the skills needed to function in a healthy way that has a positive impact on my mind, body and spirit.
It's not always easy to prioritize your health and wellness- especially in a busy and demanding world! But if we don't make time for our health, who will?
What I didn’t realize was that the way I handled stress in my failed marriage, my childhood traumas and adult choices all affected me to the point where I made myself sick. I come from a culture that doesn't talk about therapy, and mental well being. You learn from an early age to tough it out. Well toughening it out leads to stress on our bodies and mind and eventually brings about disease. Many of which could have been avoided.
I want to share what I have learned over the years and in my training to help you achieve that too. Health and wellness is the biggest self care act you can do for yourself. It will not only will it benefit you, but it would benefit others around you and in your families and loved. You can only give of yourself truly if you’re functioning at 100%. Anything less is an injustice to you and your loved ones.
Health and wellness isn't about restrictions or rules- wellness is about freedom, peace of mind and joy.
No two people are alike, as unique as the sands of the sea or the stars in the sky, we are all different.
Our minds, the way we respond with our emotions, our bodies and the way we’re shaped, are all different and that’s the beauty of us.
However, there are things we can do as no matter how different we are that we can all can relate to.
We have to start speaking positively to and about ourselves, leave no room for negativity and doubt about who we are and what we can accomplish.
Speaking positive affirmations everyday can help us to overcome our attitude of self sabotage and negative thoughts. Be kind to ourselves, we have been through a lot.
What we put in to our bodies is what we will get out of it. We have often heard the analogy; when we buy a car we put the best gas and oil in it, we do regular maintenance because we realize the value and know that if we take care of our cars that it will reward us, less likely fro breakdown, however if we don’t there’s a good chance we can always trade in or replace a car that is damaged.
Yet with our bodies we tend to neglect good care. And in our case, we only have one. We need to treat food as medicine and medicine as food.
Do something active that you like. You don’t necessarily need to join a gm or have a personal trainer to have fun exercising.
If you love to dance, then let dance be your cardio, if you love to swim, then get in the pool, if you love to walk, then make it family bonding event. If you love to hike, then get your boots on. If you love to cycle, then get spinning or ride the bike that catching dust in your garage. The attitude of fitness is based highly on you view point.