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I spent my entire young life wondering what my purpose was. I knew God made me for a reason, but what was that? I don’t mean the cliché “we are all here to worship and praise him, or to tell others about the love of God.” We know that’s true, but how?

Everyone has a special purpose, unique only to them. After all, the bible says in Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”  So, there’s that versus what I truly felt about myself. Confusing right? I mean, here’s God telling me that he has a special plan for me, one that was there before my parents even thought to have sex, maybe even before they dated, yet here I was totally oblivious to that and in my 30’s. You would think I would know what that was at my age right?….WRONG!!

It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with cancer that I started realizing what my purpose was. You’re probably going to hear about this diagnosis a lot, and I’m not in any ways magnifying cancer. I am saying sometimes it takes drastic situation for you to realize what life truly means and to realize your purpose, but my story and my purpose is for another time. Right now, I am asking you.


Take a few moments to reflect and write.

Sometimes we are living our purpose already and don’t even realize it. That’s why we shouldn’t say when someone dies. “they didn’t even begin to live yet? And they’re gone so young and so soon.” We often try to measure someone’s purpose up against what we know of them. Yet it’s said we have no idea nor will know until we reach heaven how many people we have touched or led to Christ without even knowing it. That means you’re living in your purpose right now; every day is a purposeful day. Not some future date or some event that will cause a light bulb to just flick on and you say, Oh yes, that’s it!!

Do you have any clue how many people had plans for 2020 and barely made it to the first quarter? Look at Kobe Bryant, maybe you’ve lost your mother or father, a sibling, another family member or friend w during this pandemic. Maybe you’re next, maybe I am. Truth is we don’t know when any of us will go. Ok this post wasn’t set out to be morbid, but I hope you’re catching my drift.

Since we are on the issue of death, let me just say, pain or death is not the only experience or method to discovering your purpose. I discovered mine thru it, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be you. I don’t think God is so petty to only be willing to use only bad experiences to fulfill his purpose in us.  However, I believe He is willing to use any and all experiences to bring purpose to our lives.

2 Cor 1:4 says “He comforts all in our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.”

This is in no way to minimize the pain that death has caused any of you during this time, but to let you know that no death will be in vain. God will use that as an opportunity to bless someone, even you. There will be glory after this.

Just think for a moment….have you ever gone thru something good or bad and then someone says to you “I understand” and then you say, how could you?

And they said because I’ve been exactly where you are? And for some reason there’s a level of comfort in knowing that you’re not alone.

Maybe you’ve had incredible success in your business and career, so part of your purpose is to help others who have similar goals and need a mentor.

On the other hand, maybe you’ve lost a loved one and now part of your purpose is to help others navigate their own grief.

Maybe you’ve gone thru a difficult marriage that ended in divorce, and now you’re in a position to help someone fight thru their challenges and save their marriage.

Maybe you’ve managed to navigate parenting, and now instead of being judgmental to the young couple or the single mother because it seems they lack patience or at their wits end. You can step in and be a source of help and strength or babysitter (I need babysitter lol)

You see no matter what you’ve been through, God can and will use them to fulfill his purpose he has for our lives. We often miss those opportunities of purposeful living because we are not paying attention.

What purposes can you see in the experiences you’ve had, or in your everyday living.

Pay attention, your purpose is probably right in front of your eyes.



Be Totally Well is a concept that comes completely from the heart. With this website I hope to use my life experiences and the things I've learned along the way to inspire, strengthen and educate women.

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